Problem Free Philosophy marks its 100th post today! Pull out the streamers and cut the cake!!! YAY!
I got a WordPress renewal notice last week to continue for two more years. Hmmmmmmm…. decisions, decisions.
For quite some time, I used Facebook as a platform to share our lives. Funny things. Hard things. Happy and sad things. Not for accolades but as a way of explanation, of transparency, of truth.
As a way to peek into our lives. Into one family’s autism journey. Good or bad, we have really sheltered Jacob. Outside of our special needs community, few people know him, have ever seen him, and weren’t aware of his existence. One of my big regrets is not exposing Jacob to more experiences and more people. Instead, I let the awkwardness and the unknown steal memory-making moments from our family. We’ll never know how things would be different if I’d been braver.
We find ourselves at an odd place in our lives right now. In many ways, every day is the same as the day before. Jacob has been home for six months. In the past, a lot of my stories were current to what happened at his day program. Now, we don’t know what day of the week it is! Or, when he’ll return to that daily schedule.
In October 2018 I began to tell our story. Reflection is good, so I’ll do that. These are just some of the blog reactions that stand out, some repeated by multiple people:
“I had no idea.”
“I have a reminder set, every Thursday, to read the blog. It is really good and has given me a lot of insight.”
“Your blog touches my heart strings.”
“You need to write a book.”
“Your blog about insecurities is exactly what every new (and experienced) mom and dad needs to read!”
“I love today’s story and can relate!”
“Your blog entries are always inspirational, heart warming, as well as educational for me.”
“Snack. Eat. Snack. Jacob and I have been doing the same thing.”
“Jacob’s got a friend that loves him.”
“I’m sure every special needs child’s mom has gone through something like that one way or the other.”
“Jacob has a way of getting someone’s attention!”
“You have opened my eyes to living with autism.”
“You speak to my heart through all your blog entries! Today you spoke through a MEGAPHONE!” “So powerful.”
“That was just what I needed to hear.”
“If you’d consider putting these in a book form, we’d like to help fund.”
“Even though life is a different journey for me, I’m always encouraged by your story.”
“I think there is an insecure button in us that only we can push and it is up to us to take charge of our insecurities and put a cover on that button.”
“You and Mike are so blessed with a full on Prayer Army!”
“Jacob is GREAT!”
“There are moms and dads that need to hear your joys, as well as your struggles.”
“I’ve gotten to know so much about Jacob. Things I had no idea about!”
“I love reading about the funny things that Jacob does.”
“Thank you for being real. People need to understand it isn’t always easy.”
“I look forward to these every week.”
“You are right where God wants you to be.”
“My heart melted and my eyes are leaking.”
“I love hearing about Jacob.”
“Well, I cried thru that post. Thank you for being so transparent.”
“You were chosen. Much respect.”
“I love that God has given you the ability to laugh in the midst of tremendous frustration.”
Every week, someone comments on the blog, sends me a text, or comments on Jacob’s Problem Free Philosophy Facebook page some encouraging word that fuels me to keep going. Those above are just a few.
This blog does many things and one is that it makes me look for the positive. It makes me evaluate the negatives. It makes me more vulnerable to criticism. And, creates a self-imposed pressure to churn out a new post every week. It also makes Jacob more visible even though he’s been home for six months.
When Jacob’s Mamaw passed away in July, a long-time friend called me, “Jacob hasn’t been around me much, but I would be happy to come stay with him to help you out.” Would that selfless offer have been made if she hadn’t read approximately ninety Problem Free Philosophy posts? Probably so. She’s that kind of friend. Did having learned little bits and pieces about Jacob make her more confident that she could manage? I like to think so.
This blog became my sharing platform and without knowing it, you help write the posts. Thank you.